Cyberstalking: One Moms Story!

I am doing a series on Cyberstalking and to start it off I got Bambi of Mothering Many Feet to write a little about one recent experience she has had on the internet. It is an ongoing problem for her and a group of her friends who seek to make home birth safer. It’s a hot button issue which is very emotionally charged and therefore tends to explode into what you will see before you.

Bambi’s Story

As I am sure most know, our group has been a target of women who are mad about the fact that we stand for something totally different than they do. There are women who are angry that we speak out against the dangerous misinformation they promote. There are women angry that those of us with dead babies aren’t just thankful for the births we got and dare to call our midwives negligent. According to them, we need to accept responsibility for the deaths and make peace with them like some other mothers are willing to do. These very women are the ones who have made a list of our names and passed it around as some sort of master list of people to ban from pages.

One blogger accused us of hacking her blog and sending her threats. Though I admit, this blogger can be a nice person so in burying the hatchet, I deleted several of my blog posts about the misinformation and deaths in her community. Though, she never did admit to the lies spread about us, but we did get to see a blog post attacking one of our members, who had a baby die. One blogger saw a few of us from “the list” and came out swinging out of the blue although the few of us on her page had NEVER done anything on her page. Those ones, eh, whatever. These next few- HOLY SHIT!

One blogger has taken to attacking one member of our group at a time including photos of the women’s children! Another blogger has taken to taking screenshots of things said and putting them in whatever context she wants in order to make us look badly. What’s comical about this one is that she tried really hard to get us to see and feel and think how she does, but, we didn’t. She is trying to punish us for not being on board with HER ideals. She has also taken to creating a troll profile in order to be in a private group of ours so she can watch us and take screenshots of anything she wants since most of us have left the Fed Up group. This woman also follows us everywhere we go and tries to instigate arguments. Most of us have had to block her personal profile, but unfortunately, we can’t block her page, which is the avenue she uses.

I Share All Of This Because These Women Claim We Bully Them

Technically, cyberbullying occurs between children and teens. In the adult world, it’s cyberstalking. These last two women have turned to a page called The Mom Pledge about their woes and are getting support from these people who are against “mom bullying”, even after seeing blog posts these women have written.

What Is Cyberstalking?

According to Wikipedia

Cyberstalking is the use of the Internet or other electronic means to stalk or harass an individual, a group of individuals, or an organization. It may include false accusations, monitoring, making threats, identity theft, damage to data or equipment, the solicitation of minors for sex, or gathering information in order to harass. The definition of “harassment” must meet the criterion that a reasonable person, in possession of the same information, would regard it as sufficient to cause another reasonable person distress.[1] Cyberstalking is different from spatial or offline stalking. However, it sometimes leads to it, or is accompanied by it.[2]

Types Of Cyberstalkers:

1. The Rejected Stalker
2. Intimacy Seekers
3. Incompetent Suitors
4. Resentful Stalkers
5. Predatory Stalkers
6. Delusional Stalker
7. Erotomaniac
8. Harasser Stalker
9. Love Rats
10. Trolls

The main one we are dealing with tried really hard to get us to validate her decision to home birth based on previous trauma. We could not. This turned this woman against us, so ever since then, we have dealt with her creating fake profiles in order to infiltrate our private groups so that she can cap anything and post it online. These caps usually come with a bullshit story, so she can make it seem as though we are discussing something completely different than we are. She went so far as to try to hurt a friend of ours by pasting a bunch of caps together claiming this is what we said about the woman. Due to her trolling our private groups, she will follow us to any thread we are discussing and use it to put us down/bad mouth us to others.

We choose to ignore, but she………………. Well, you decide!

Thank you Bambi for sharing this story. I know she could go on and on about these problems. All in an attempt to prevent women from hearing her message about the safety of home birth. And for The Mom Pledge to even be a part of this! It’s just wrong on so many levels. Check back soon for more stories about Cyberstalking in this series on Cyberstalking.
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