As we approach Mother’s Day all of the mothers with children in the home are hoping for certain things. Things like a day of rest and relaxation along with a few homemade gifts and cards. My middle daughter keeps asking me what I want for Mother’s Day and I keep telling her for you all to behave and not fight with each other. Not exactly the answer she has been looking for though. As she says, she can’t control what the other kids do.
Over the years I have come to not expect too much. Really it’s not about expectations and more about realizing how lucky I am anyways. Even if I still have to work, cook, clean, change diapers, and yes, even if all the kids do is bicker with each other all day long I am really lucky to have them.
And isn’t that really what Mother’s Day is all about? Not the pampering and the day off or even one day of peace and quiet. It’s about being grateful. And why does that mean I should be anything but grateful as well for whatever the kids throw at me that day?
I’m looking forward to my school made gifts and other handmade with love treats. I am looking forward to spending an evening out with my husband and children. I do hope they behave, but I hope for that every day. But if they don’t you know what? We’re all only human and I can’t stay mad at them. I don’t have many more Mother’s Days with all of my children here at home and I don’t want to waste it being bitter. I want it to be worthwhile and memorable.
So instead of a list of materialistic or unattainable wants this year I plan on spending the day being grateful that I get to mother four of the most amazing, smart, beautiful, funny, and unique children I know. And I’m grateful to my own mother for being there for me and helping to teach me that motherhood is about being selfless and going without so your kids can have more. That’s all I need for Mother’s Day and I’m pretty sure I’ll be having the best Mother’s Day in my 15 years of being a mother.
What expectations of Mother’s Day are you throwing out the window this year?